Thursday, January 28, 2010
Who's homework is it?
Today I get home from work and my daughter is telling my mom that her project and report are due tomorrow. My dad is sitting on the couch writing her report for her and my mom is at the kitchen table building her project for her. Where is my daughter? She’s watching TV in her bedroom. I went off on all of them. How is that teaching her anything about her responsibilities? I had to give myself a time out when I found out that she knew about these assignments for three weeks. She came to me and asked me to draw a picture on the front of her report. I said for her to do it herself and no more. I couldn't trust myself to say anymore at the time. I wish my parents did my homework for me when i was younger. Dang
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I think it's a part of life. My Grandma did my mom's projects sometimes. My mom did mine and my brothers sometimes. You know one of those take over situations where the kid ends up walking away or told get out of the way. I did my daughters homework last night. It was after bedtime and she said she didn't finish it earlier and needed help, who ended up doing it, me. Like mother like daughter I guess. Sometimes it's ok to be the hero and you definately have to learn to pick your battles.
ReplyDeleteI agree partly. Sometimes when big projects are assigned parental help is needed. However doing the work for her because she procrastinated, isn't teaching her responsibilty. Sometimes kids need to fail to learn the lesson.
ReplyDeleteFollower: You do have a point. I definitely need to consider if something is worth the energy. I still do not have the legal rights to my kids yet and maybe I’m just using that as an excuse but I felt at the time that if I didn’t give myself a time out I would say or do something I may regret. Needless to say the day was in fact saved and everyone was happy. I informed my daughter that it would not happen again. She did not take the time to even research anything or ask anyone for help until the night before it was due. I agree with Raising Marshmallows that sometimes you have to let the child learn from their mistakes. I want nothing but the best for my kids and I can only hope that they make the right decisions, especially about academics.
ReplyDeleteI agree as well in those circumstances she needs to learn a lesson and learn from her mistakes. I'm not sure that I wouldn't have still helped so that her grade wasn't affected. But I would definately have a talk with her and give her some type of consequence myself. Of course if she continued to do this I wouldn't be so quick to jump in and help and she would have consequences at home and probably from school as well. We are all differant and parent in differant ways. You are definately right as long as we strive to do what's best for the kids that's all that matters.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you chose to control yourself and I encourage you to continue to do that. We can't change others but we can always work on us.
Let her fail then.... First thing that comes to mind is that she has been hailed as such a good student with awsome grades... I wonder how much of those grades are really hers. She needs to fail at some things in life to make herself a better person to appriecuate those goals she does achieve. Otherwise she gonna always think theres someone there to bail her out. Screw that!!!!!!!
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